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A common issue in couples’ therapy is one person assuming their partner needs too much while the other person feels insecure in the relationship. Let me introduce you to Breanna and Raymond, just such a couple.

Breanna and Raymond came in for therapy because Breanna was depressed.

She saw no hope for the future of the marriage because Raymond was always either working or playing golf.

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During the first session, she described what precipitated her calling for an appointment. She had accidentally locked herself out of the house and called Raymond at work, hoping he would come home and let her in. Raymond told her that he had an important meeting to attend.

In a rather irritable voice, he advised her to call a locksmith. Breanna felt betrayed by Raymond's refusal to help her and stunned to learn how low she ranked on his list of priorities.

In discussing this incident in the therapy session, Breanna focused on how Raymond had expressed no understanding or empathy for how she felt that day.

She could understand it was impractical for him to rush to her rescue, but couldn't he at leas

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